In a day and age that we are literally seeing over 10,000 different messages and different points of views daily, it is important that you do not fold to every thought and theory and try to adopt each and apply them to your life. One must create a strong mindset and stay committed to the input and messages that cultivate said strong mindset. Here are three essential ways to do so.
1. Limit the amount of people you are following on your Facebook feed. If you have not done so already, take a look at your friend’s friend list. Most people are averaging upwards of 1,000-2,000 “friends”; however, most people only interact with a small fraction of those “friends.” If you have not done so yet, do an examination for the next week of the posts that come up on your feed.
Notice the “friends” that have negative posts or pessimistic posts and use the “3 strikes, you’re out” rule; if they have 3 negative posts within that week, simply click on the options button and unfollow them. How important is what we see on our feed? A study conducted by Facebook showed “when Facebook removed positive posts from the news feeds of more than 680,000 users, those users made fewer positive posts and more negative ones. Similarly, when negative posts were removed, the opposite occurred.” (According to Tanya Lewis of LiveScience)
If their views are completely out of line with your core views and beliefs, then you must be willing to remove their content/ messages that are invading your strong mindset that you are constructing.
2. Read a book or listen to content that is full of the thoughts and principles that you are trying to adopt. Literally saturate yourself in this content; whether it is an audio book in your vehicle when you are driving to work, on your headphones when you are cleaning up around the house, at lunch when you are aimlessly scrolling through your phone on social media, or you are reading before you go to bed. Consistency is key.
Like any type of exercise, one must stay consistent if they are going to see results and witness a change. Likewise, your conversations with people around you, whether at work or home, must be centered on positive and constructive topics that fuel and feed your mindset. You must not allow people to guide you into talking and carrying conversations that are contrary to your direction of thought.
3. Select 1 or 2 foundational and practical things that you can apply to your daily routine per week. If you have been concentrating on the topic of productivity and your focus is on being PROACTIVE rather than REACTIVE, you want to pick something such as PLANNING, and begin to use it in your daily life. At the end of your day, begin to plan for the next day or make your weekly plans of what needs to get completed. Take a glance at your month and see what is vital and necessary and set them in your calendar with reminder on your phone, etc.
This is just one example, but make sure, to the best of your ability, to practice what you are hearing in your learning. Without practicing it, it will be difficult for these principles to become part of who you are. Jennifer Cohen, contributor for Forbes wrote: “Despite what many may think, self-discipline is a learned behavior. It requires practice and repetition in your day-to-day life.”