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31 Aug

The #1 Choice You Can Make that Will Create Success

A STRONG MINDSET is necessary to your success in any area or aspect of your life and especially as a leader: whether in your relationships with others, business, health, spirituality, or journey of self mastery.
I’m not even specifying what type of mindset! Positive mindset, optimistic mindset, mindset of a champion, etc.
Whatever the mindset, you have to CHOOSE ONE and RUN!
Both openly and in private, people talk about others that are finicky and unable to make decisions. “He can’t even decide…” “She can’t make up her mind…”
“If they would only choose…”
Sound familiar?
People follow leaders that:
1.) Are self aware
2.) Have a clear direction
3.) Are convinced what they are doing is not only right, but they are providing VALUE to this world.
In whichever mindset that embodies you or the mindset that you want to guide your life, you must know that come hell or high water, you are set in this frame of mind and will not move from this. The main thing is, CHOOSE one. Dr. Stan Beecham, a sports psychologist, and director and founding member of the Leadership Resource Center in Atlanta, Georgia was interviewed concerning mindset and successful people in sports and business and he said:
“We know that it’s the mental game that counts, whether it’s sports or business. Because the mind is controlling the body. You have to think of the brain as the computer system, and you have to think of your belief system as your software.”
A strong mindset is saying these are my fundamentals, this is what I stand on, this is who I am, I believe in this so much that I will not allow any outside influences to sway me from my core beliefs… this state of mind will help me get through the good and bad moments.For instance, If you choose an OPTIMISTIC mindset, you understand that in ALL situations (good and seemingly bad) you must:
-train your mind to always think on the brighter side of things
-think that there is a bigger and better reason for it all
– believe that somehow THIS moment and situation is here for a purpose and reason for the betterment of my being.
The training of the mind is not the hard part. The HARD PART is deciding which strong mindset to have… deciding to take a stance and make a conscious and public declaration of what you believe. It was Napolean Hill that said:
“Those who reach decisions promptly and definitely, know what they want, and generally get it.”
So, decide what mindset you will adopt, and what principles will guide your life. The more that you apply them, the stronger they will become.
posted by: Richard Trevino II richard@richardtrevino2.com
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03 Aug

Creating a Strong Mindset:

In a day and age that we are literally seeing over 10,000 different messages and different points of views daily, it is important that you do not fold to every thought and theory and try to adopt each and apply them to your life. One must create a strong mindset and stay committed to the input and messages that cultivate said strong mindset. Here are three essential ways to do so.
1. Limit the amount of people you are following on your Facebook feed. If you have not done so already, take a look at your friend’s friend list. Most people are averaging upwards of 1,000-2,000 “friends”; however, most people only interact with a small fraction of those “friends.” If you have not done so yet, do an examination for the next week of the posts that come up on your feed.
Notice the “friends” that have negative posts or pessimistic posts and use the “3 strikes, you’re out” rule; if they have 3 negative posts within that week, simply click on the options button and unfollow them. How important is what we see on our feed? A study conducted by Facebook showed “when Facebook removed positive posts from the news feeds of more than 680,000 users, those users made fewer positive posts and more negative ones. Similarly, when negative posts were removed, the opposite occurred.” (According to Tanya Lewis of LiveScience)
 If their views are completely out of line with your core views and beliefs, then you must be willing to remove their content/ messages that are invading your strong mindset that you are constructing.

    2. Read a book or listen to content that is full of the thoughts and principles that you are trying to adopt. Literally saturate yourself in this content; whether it is an audio book in your vehicle when you are driving to work, on your headphones when you are cleaning up around the house, at lunch when you are aimlessly scrolling through your phone on social media, or you are reading before you go to bed. Consistency is key.

    Like any type of exercise, one must stay consistent if they are going to see results and witness a change. Likewise, your conversations with people around you, whether at work or home, must be centered on positive and constructive topics that fuel and feed your mindset. You must not allow people to guide you into talking and carrying conversations that are contrary to your direction of thought.

      3. Select 1 or 2 foundational and practical things that you can apply to your daily routine per week. If you have been concentrating on the topic of productivity and your focus is on being PROACTIVE rather than REACTIVE, you want to pick something such as PLANNING, and begin to use it in your daily life. At the end of your day, begin to plan for the next day or make your weekly plans of what needs to get completed. Take a glance at your month and see what is vital and necessary and set them in your calendar with reminder on your phone, etc.

      This is just one example, but make sure, to the best of your ability, to practice what you are hearing in your learning. Without practicing it, it will be difficult for these principles to become part of who you are. Jennifer Cohen, contributor for Forbes wrote: “Despite what many may think, self-discipline is a learned behavior. It requires practice and repetition in your day-to-day life.”
      posted by: Richard Trevino II richard@richardtrevino2.com
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      25 Jul

      5 Things to Be More Productive

      In the busy and fast paced world that we live in, it is crucial to have a set of principles to live by to increase our odds of having a productive day, whether at work or home. If we are not careful, it is very easy to become busy and not productive. Here are 5 things to live by to stay productive:
      1. Plan your day THE NIGHT BEFORE.
      Plan your work and work your plan. Nothing can help you be more productive than writing down your plans for the next day, on the night before. Make sure you are done with your responsibilities and things you need to do at home first, and then begin to plan the next day. Think about anything that was left undone previously and fit those things in your day. Consider all important, essential, and critical things that must get done.
      2. Wake up early in the morning.
      Always wake up early enough in the mornings to give yourself enough time to do the routine prepping (shower, brush teeth, dress, etc.) and to eat a good meal. If you do this and have some time to spare, it will put you in a productive state of mind rather than a reactive state like when you are running late.
      3. Review your plan for the day.
      As you embark onto your day, review your written plan and what is NEEDED to be completed for the day. Ashley Feinstein’s article in Forbes, “Why You Should Be Writing Down Your Plans,” talks about a study that was done on writing down your plans and it states “…those who wrote down their goals accomplished significantly more than those who did not write down their goals.”
      Check each step and detail of each task. Make sure every step is clear and make any notes on your planner so you don’t forget later on in the day. As the day goes on, update your planner as things come up.
      4. Commit yourself to the tasks and create Accountability.
      If you have a few clients to visit with that day or a few accounts to visit, call the client in the morning and confirm it. Once you’ve done this, you are COMMITTED, and there is no backing out. You will be there at the confirmed time to complete the task. Another form of accountability is social accountability.
      In the beginning of your day write a post on social media of what you plan on completing that day. As you are knocking each task out, don’t just cross it out on your list and planner, but post it on social media and use it as a checklist. If you didn’t complete a task, it is highly likely that someone will call you out… and you wouldn’t want that, right?
      5. Reward yourself.
      We all need the carrot dangling in front of us to motivate us to complete our tasks. From the early morning you should choose what your reward will be if and when you complete ALL of your tasks for the day. This will push you to not cut corners and to make sure EVERYTHING is done.
      Remember, don’t celebrate and reward yourself if you didn’t hit the goal. Keep your integrity and follow through with this and it will force you to be more productive. Here is an article on Fast Company that gives “10 Ways to Reward Yourself for Working So Hard.”
      posted by: Richard Trevino II richard@richardtrevino2.com
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      02 Jul

      Things In life That Can Hurt Your Mindset

      One of the most frustrating things to do is to do what you just said you were no longer going to do. Why does this happen? It happens because your mindset is not SET. It was Frank Outlaw that first (debatably) said:
      “Watch your thoughts, they become words;
      watch your words, they become actions;
      watch your actions, they become habits;
      watch your habits, they become character;
      watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
      … the understanding that nothing happens without there first being a thought conceived. So, if our thoughts and mindset are that important, what is put into them is far more important.
      We must protect our mindset at all costs and ensure that only that which you are looking to manifest in your life are allowed there.
      There are certain things that can hurt your mindset that we should be very aware of. Here are 4 major things to take note of:
      1. Toxic Relationships:
      Be cautious of relationships with people whether at work, home, neighborhood, etc. that they are constantly ridiculing, downgrading, or questioning your mindset and values. Also, conversations with the people that all they ever do is use you for a dumping ground and unload all of their problems on you and don’t ever use or apply any of your advice. These people do not value you enough to respect your decisions for your life nor your help to better their situation.
      As this article by Judith Acosta from The Huffington Post states in her article “Toxic Venting: When to stop Listening”:
      “Does that make me less a friend? I don’t think so. If anything, it might be the other way around. Perhaps he was less of a friend than I imagined…”
      Basically stating that these types of “friends” are not good for our well-being and mindset.
      2. Too much unhealthy food:
      It has been said that “foods affect moods.” So, we must watch what we are eating to not have an adverse effect on our mindset. This article written by Elaine Magee from Web MD
      “Basically the science of food’s affect on mood is based on this: Dietary changes can bring about changes in our brain structure (chemically and physiologically), which can lead to altered behavior.”
      3. Media not aligned with your direction:
      Consciously or not, the messages that we receive from all forms of media (music, internet, social media, reading material, T.V., etc.) are playing a huge role in our thought process, actions, responses, and habits. What we consume can and will affect our mindset. Choose media that is aligned with your direction, goals, vision, values, etc. so it does not hurt your mindset and end up getting you off track.
      4. Being a people pleaser:
      To a certain point, obviously it is good to know what others think of you and what type of message you are giving off to people; however, when it gets to the point of constantly asking what others think or feel about what you are doing, there needs to be a line drawn. When your decisions are governed by the unsure feeling that someone may not be pleased with what you are doing and your peace, joy, and happiness are compromised, then it can and will become a problem.
      How? You are no longer being guided by your mindset and values, but by the mindset and values of other people. If you are not careful, you will lose your own values, core message, and direction.
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      27 Jun

      Apps and Tools to be More Productive

      It seems like all of our lives are extremely busy, hectic, and full of stress; yet, we continue to live each day like the previous without changing a thing. There are tools and apps that we can use to help us better structure our time and days, so they can flow better with less stress and less unexpected surprises. Here are my top 3 suggestions of tools to use:
      1. First and foremost, use your virtual assistant on your phone (Siri, OK google, etc.). When you are going through your day and you have a conversation with someone and you make plans together. Immediately use your assistant and set up the plans. If you meet a person and they are a prospective client, use your assistant and program their info onto your phone with a reminder to call this person on said day. If something comes into mind and you don’t want to forget it… you guessed it, USE THE ASSISTANT to remind you.
      This tool is so far underutilized. According to an article written by Kif Leswing, at Business Insider, studies shows that “…Seventy percent of iPhone users say that they use Siri only sometimes or rarely…” and “…Android users are similar. Sixty-two percent say that they use OK Google only infrequently.”
      2. Use a date book, calendar, or planner. Make sure to have some sort of planner, whether on your phone, tablet, or a physical planner where you are notating the things that you must do and your plans. The old saying “if you fail to plan, then plan to fail” is so very true. You cannot possibly remember everything. If your day, week, and month are all planned out ON THE SAME PLANNER, then chances are your days will be a lot smoother.
      When you wake up in the morning, you will know exactly what needs to get done that day. I would take it a step further and encourage you to check your plans for the day the night before so that your mind is already calculating what needs to be done.
      3. Just say NO! The power of NO. The majority of us that do a good job of planning still battle with this at times. You have a conversation with someone and they want to set up a meeting with you, lunch to catch up, etc. and the first thing that comes out is “yeah, sure. Let’s do it!” knowing very well that you probably have something going on around that time. We must use the TOOL that is saying “NO” to help to not overwhelm ourselves and stay more productive.
       In an article by Judith Sills Ph.D of Psychology Today, she states that “…NO is an instrument of integrity and a shield against exploitation.” (https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201311/the-power-no )
      A lot of times we take on more than we should and probably want to and the stress load also comes with it. But the reality is that we can help reduce that by just simply and kindly saying no. Obviously, a reschedule would also help. But the point is, say “NO” and try to set the meeting, lunch, etc. up on your planner.
      posted by: Richard Trevino II richard@richardtrevino2.com
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