One of the most frustrating things to do is to do what you just said you were no longer going to do. Why does this happen? It happens because your mindset is not SET. It was Frank Outlaw that first (debatably) said:
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
… the understanding that nothing happens without there first being a thought conceived. So, if our thoughts and mindset are that important, what is put into them is far more important.
We must protect our mindset at all costs and ensure that only that which you are looking to manifest in your life are allowed there.
There are certain things that can hurt your mindset that we should be very aware of. Here are 4 major things to take note of:
1. Toxic Relationships:
Be cautious of relationships with people whether at work, home, neighborhood, etc. that they are constantly ridiculing, downgrading, or questioning your mindset and values. Also, conversations with the people that all they ever do is use you for a dumping ground and unload all of their problems on you and don’t ever use or apply any of your advice. These people do not value you enough to respect your decisions for your life nor your help to better their situation.
As this article by Judith Acosta from The Huffington Post states in her article “Toxic Venting: When to stop Listening”:
“Does that make me less a friend? I don’t think so. If anything, it might be the other way around. Perhaps he was less of a friend than I imagined…”
Basically stating that these types of “friends” are not good for our well-being and mindset.
2. Too much unhealthy food:
It has been said that “foods affect moods.” So, we must watch what we are eating to not have an adverse effect on our mindset. This article written by Elaine Magee from Web MD
“Basically the science of food’s affect on mood is based on this: Dietary changes can bring about changes in our brain structure (chemically and physiologically), which can lead to altered behavior.”
3. Media not aligned with your direction:
Consciously or not, the messages that we receive from all forms of media (music, internet, social media, reading material, T.V., etc.) are playing a huge role in our thought process, actions, responses, and habits. What we consume can and will affect our mindset. Choose media that is aligned with your direction, goals, vision, values, etc. so it does not hurt your mindset and end up getting you off track.
4. Being a people pleaser:
To a certain point, obviously it is good to know what others think of you and what type of message you are giving off to people; however, when it gets to the point of constantly asking what others think or feel about what you are doing, there needs to be a line drawn. When your decisions are governed by the unsure feeling that someone may not be pleased with what you are doing and your peace, joy, and happiness are compromised, then it can and will become a problem.
How? You are no longer being guided by your mindset and values, but by the mindset and values of other people. If you are not careful, you will lose your own values, core message, and direction.